Dissecting the Struggle

Not all of us were raised with love being the main focus in our parents lives. Many performed selfish acts and constantly placed us in harm’s way! I always wanted to know what made people do such hurtful things, stupid things, selfish things, inconsiderate things, hateful things, etc. Well, since the mind is such a compelling environment not set up to make company comfortable I had to compromise. I really don’t care how many psych docs examine a patient many times you get what they want you to understand and no more. I’m gonna try something different since I’m pretty sure the way my day be going, I have the words “PSYCHIATRIST” written on my forhead… lol I swear people just mouth vomit ever bad thing that’s happened to them & yes, I do listen.

“Dissecting the struggle” will mainly be helpful to the younger generation of ladies out here lost by telling them our story. Some young ladies out here are alone with no parents, are single parents, emotional, fed up already, and ready to take their lives. They are not alone, I just want them to know this. We make mistakes, we live, we learn, we educate ourselves, we experience things we have a hard time explaining. Why sit back & watch? If I can tell my stories to help one young lady avoid the consequences I made because nobody was there to tell me otherwise, well I’ll rest better at night.

So much bad going on I want people to know there are still good people who want to see others legitimately happy no strings attached.

Please if you have a story to share, or know of someone who would like to be a part of this let me know!! I will be doing a lot of community type interviews such as food banks, nursing homes, and shelters… “how has a struggle affected you & how did you overcome it?” This will be my main theme that I’ll focus on, my niche “the struggle.”😩

I really want to interview women who worked hard & now own businesses as well!! Our younger generation need to know it’s possible & how they can get started while they still have patience.

I will also buy homeless people on the corner meals to sit with me & tell their story. I will interview students who dropped outta school, pregnant teens, drug addicts, abusive kids, ungrateful kids, those on welfare, those with jobs struggling, etc. The point is, I will interview those who struggle on a daily basis yet they don’t give up, we may laugh & we may cry but in the end we will dissect every struggle and figure out just where we went wrong and then make it right!!! #bethechangeyouwanttosee

I’m excited to be doing my very first podcast I thank The Most High for sending me on this journey and since I know I’m protected this chic will enjoy the ride😎

My very first interview will be with a dear friend of mine who has 2 sweet boys a year apart but been through so much, so young. When I first met her she had so much anger in her heart and now, well let’s just say “time truly heals old wounds.” Today she’s working, going to school, and her sons are improving with their anger and in their spirit, her life is her 2 boys and it shows, and she is theirs💜💋 Coming this month to a YouTube near you…


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Join Kidorable’s Birthday Club this year and receive a birthday surprise on your next birthday! Even if you don’t make a purchase, you still will receive a gift on your birthday. Did someone say free?

They had me at free yall…head on over & get your little one signed up today parents. Kids ask your parents before joining.

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10 reasons you struggle to keep New Years Resolutions…

New Year’s resolutions are simply brain teasers!

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New Years Resolutions are brain teasers

Struggling every year to keep your New Years Resolution? What exactly is a New Year’s Resolution to you? I like to think it’s a promise to oneself to improve their lives in one way or another for the new year.

Don’t believe the hype people

My issue with it is it’s really a trick we play on the brain, not so much a resolution at all. Mind over matter, right? We tell ourselves we want to change for the better, yet we also plan a day in the future to do it on. The brain just does not work that way.

Change today not tomorrow

If you really want to act on a desire or thought you must do it when you’re the most motivated. How do you know if you’re the most motivated? The most motivated you will every be about something is at the time of excitement. The first initial thought. Well if you think it you can achieve it, right?

Thinking about the way the human brain works…

At the moment your mind is telling you to lose weight for example that is when you should start creating a plan and putting it into action. They say it takes about 30 days to break a habit or make a habit routine. Why would you wait until you are no longer motivated such as next week or next year? Why would you allow the brain to go on to its next thought without acting on the thought before?

What happens psychologically speaking is…

Your body falls back into the normal routine you have set for yourself prior to your great idea to change. When the New Year comes your motivation is just zapped, you waited way too long. Your mind forgot how very important your thoughts at the time were to you.

About that word…change

Change tends to stay around much longer when we are naturally more motivated & when the change is not intimidating. Starting with small goals while working up to one big goal is the way to change. The failure to act right away can mean the difference between you walking to your destination vs you being dragged against your will.

What I am struggling to say is…

Normally when you want to do something and your motivation is all the way there you don’t need any help. Once you wait you will need someone to pretty much drag you kicking and screaming to just complete one small step towards your every goal.

Too much thinking and not so much doing is the road to failure and I don’t think you want to go that way. It is what it is, we are just so busy doing things we don’t want to do, spending time with people we don’t want to be around, and helping others way more than we help ourselves. You guessed it, it’s called work. Many of us have to prepare ourselves to go out in the world and work a job that we don’t like at all, that preoccupies our time.

This year & every year after, ditch the resolution and just start. Let’s agree a New Year’s Resolution is an excuse to not start something right away. A form of procrastination at it’s best! For example “Ill pay you back when I get my income tax check” you know how people say that just to make you feel better, then they get that income tax check and forget you existed.

Ten reasons many people struggle to keep New Years Resolutions

  • Just thinking about the resolution is too stressful
  • Some people are seriously afraid of failure
  • You have not tried the resolution before so you have self-doubt
  • The resolution is too unrealistic
  • Many people are surrounded by negative unsupportive people
  • You need a partner to encourage and motivate you
  • Some just don’t follow through & give up way too easy
  • Realizing you can’t commit to the time required
  • Not enough money is a huge one
  • Not having a plan put into place is a major fail

Struggling to stay motivated?

Please leave a comment, what are your thoughts?

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7 items you should have now to ensure your children survive a disaster!

I would rather be safe than sorry!

Could you imagine watching the news one day and there you see outta nowhere a hurricane warning, a flash flood warning or a tornado warning shall I go on? That, of course, isn’t the scary part, the scary part is knowing you are not prepared! Your children are looking at you for answers, protection, help and you have no clue what to do or what to say. 😢

You have no emergency meeting spot & everyone including you are frightened. The thought alone is enough to cause me so I decided to be ready for whatever. I can’t live without my kids and they need me, enough said.💪🏽




Life Jackets…

Child with life vest in the water

A life jacket will increase your child’s chance of survival should you encounter a life-threatening flood or sunami. Even strong swimmers are no match for angry water currents! I purchased a pack of four recently and figured I would share… My children and I all have backpacks we know to grab in case of an emergency so I put one in each.

A tent…


You may find yourself out in the cold harsh weather with animals who don’t want you around. You should purchase a tent that could house your family in such an emergency. Although it’s going to be rough, you still have provided your children with shelter, well done. I never want to be stuck in the wild with no protection from the weather, how could you keep your kids warm or protected? Gosh forbid your like me and have more than one!

Water bottle w/ filtration…

Unsafe parasitic water

Water is a necessity, who knows where you’ll be and whether it will be safe to drink the water. I would not trust it anyway so I purchased one of these water bottles for each of my children’s backpacks. As a mother can you imagine having to tell your child you don’t have water as he or she stares back at you suffering from dehydration! I think not, not one of mine.

Survival Pack…

A survival kit

I as a mother am not familiar with survival type things so I had to wing it and purchase one by the experts! I live in an area away from family, it’s just my kids, my brother and I. This is just something I wanted to throw out there as an option if you’re worried about gathering the correct supplies. Sometimes we pay for convenience.

  • Created to meet children’s unique needs: The Keep-Me-Safe Children’s 72-Hr Emergency Survival Kit was designed by parents just like you with supplies carefully selected to help you provide for your child in even the worst of circumstances.
  • Food and Water: During an emergency water is vital and access may be very limited, skip the trouble of boiling water or wasting any of your precious supply to reconstitute freeze-dried meals. The USA made SOS Brand, US Coast Guard approved Food Rations and Water Pouches included in this kit have a 5-YEAR SHELF LIFE, are space-efficient, require no extra water to rehydrate, no reheating, and were developed with a low sodium content as to not induce unnecessary thirst.
  • Comfort: Emergency situations are scary, and they are even scarier for children. Yes, it is important to make sure their physical needs are met, but emotional ones are equally as important. In this child emergency go bag, there are COMFORT items included to help provide your child some SECURITY.
  • Color Options: The backpack can be ordered in your child’s FAVORITE COLOR, and the survival kit isn’t marked with our logo or labels. In a disaster, it’s likely emergency supplies will become a very valuable commodity, so a backpack that does not advertise itself as a survival kit will keep your child and you safer.
  • Fun Sized: At only 7 lbs this survival kit is lightweight and compact making it easy to carry for even a small child. The backpack itself holds all the items, and measures 18”x9”x12”.


An Ordinary Mask

I can not stress the importance of a good quality face mask. You don’t necessarily if it’s not in your budget need to go out and purchase a $200 army mask! I am on a budget but still wish to live, so I grabbed the masks for pollution and contaminates. I purchased one for each of us.

First Aid Kit…

First Aid Kit

I made my own first aid kit and you can too.

Click here for help with yours

Just in case…

As I said before when my kids are crying, hurt and afraid I want to be able to as a mother, comfort them and help them feel better!

Crying Baby

Therefore, I made some extra purchases with everything going on in the world. These are just some things you may want to consider because again you never know how far help may be!👀

I’m sure all those people who have lost everything including their children due to a natural disaster wish they would have come across a post such as this. IJS I don’t want to be that “mom” living without her children because I wanted to live in the moment.

Potable Aqua Germicidal Water Purification Tablets – 50 per Bottle

PrimalCamp Hand Crank Solar Powered Rechargeable LED Flashlight

RegeMoudal Emergency Solar Hand Crank Radio, NOAA Weather Radio for Emergency with AM/FM, LED Flashlight, Reading Lamp, 2000mAh Power Bank, and SOS Alarm

Survival Tabs 15-Day 180 Tabs Emergency Food Ration Survival MREs Food Replacement for Outdoor Activities Disaster Preparedness Gluten Free and Non-GMO 25 Years Shelf Life Long Term – Chocolate Flavor

Emergency Information to Know & Learn…

Dial 9-1-1

Economic Crisis

Natural Disaster and Severe Weather

Shelters for Evacuation

Prepare your child for a disaster

Emergency Food Basics


Money for food delivery👈🏾🙌🏾
Enjoy your kiddos❣
Water bottles make water exciting!
The dreaded mesnstrual cycle😬
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