10 reasons you struggle to keep New Years Resolutions…

New Year’s resolutions are simply brain teasers!

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New Years Resolutions are brain teasers

Struggling every year to keep your New Years Resolution? What exactly is a New Year’s Resolution to you? I like to think it’s a promise to oneself to improve their lives in one way or another for the new year.

Don’t believe the hype people

My issue with it is it’s really a trick we play on the brain, not so much a resolution at all. Mind over matter, right? We tell ourselves we want to change for the better, yet we also plan a day in the future to do it on. The brain just does not work that way.

Change today not tomorrow

If you really want to act on a desire or thought you must do it when you’re the most motivated. How do you know if you’re the most motivated? The most motivated you will every be about something is at the time of excitement. The first initial thought. Well if you think it you can achieve it, right?

Thinking about the way the human brain works…

At the moment your mind is telling you to lose weight for example that is when you should start creating a plan and putting it into action. They say it takes about 30 days to break a habit or make a habit routine. Why would you wait until you are no longer motivated such as next week or next year? Why would you allow the brain to go on to its next thought without acting on the thought before?

What happens psychologically speaking is…

Your body falls back into the normal routine you have set for yourself prior to your great idea to change. When the New Year comes your motivation is just zapped, you waited way too long. Your mind forgot how very important your thoughts at the time were to you.

About that word…change

Change tends to stay around much longer when we are naturally more motivated & when the change is not intimidating. Starting with small goals while working up to one big goal is the way to change. The failure to act right away can mean the difference between you walking to your destination vs you being dragged against your will.

What I am struggling to say is…

Normally when you want to do something and your motivation is all the way there you don’t need any help. Once you wait you will need someone to pretty much drag you kicking and screaming to just complete one small step towards your every goal.

Too much thinking and not so much doing is the road to failure and I don’t think you want to go that way. It is what it is, we are just so busy doing things we don’t want to do, spending time with people we don’t want to be around, and helping others way more than we help ourselves. You guessed it, it’s called work. Many of us have to prepare ourselves to go out in the world and work a job that we don’t like at all, that preoccupies our time.

This year & every year after, ditch the resolution and just start. Let’s agree a New Year’s Resolution is an excuse to not start something right away. A form of procrastination at it’s best! For example “Ill pay you back when I get my income tax check” you know how people say that just to make you feel better, then they get that income tax check and forget you existed.

Ten reasons many people struggle to keep New Years Resolutions

  • Just thinking about the resolution is too stressful
  • Some people are seriously afraid of failure
  • You have not tried the resolution before so you have self-doubt
  • The resolution is too unrealistic
  • Many people are surrounded by negative unsupportive people
  • You need a partner to encourage and motivate you
  • Some just don’t follow through & give up way too easy
  • Realizing you can’t commit to the time required
  • Not enough money is a huge one
  • Not having a plan put into place is a major fail

Struggling to stay motivated?

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7 items you should have now to ensure your children survive a disaster!

I would rather be safe than sorry!

Could you imagine watching the news one day and there you see outta nowhere a hurricane warning, a flash flood warning or a tornado warning shall I go on? That, of course, isn’t the scary part, the scary part is knowing you are not prepared! Your children are looking at you for answers, protection, help and you have no clue what to do or what to say. 😢

You have no emergency meeting spot & everyone including you are frightened. The thought alone is enough to cause me so I decided to be ready for whatever. I can’t live without my kids and they need me, enough said.💪🏽




Life Jackets…

Child with life vest in the water

A life jacket will increase your child’s chance of survival should you encounter a life-threatening flood or sunami. Even strong swimmers are no match for angry water currents! I purchased a pack of four recently and figured I would share… My children and I all have backpacks we know to grab in case of an emergency so I put one in each.

A tent…


You may find yourself out in the cold harsh weather with animals who don’t want you around. You should purchase a tent that could house your family in such an emergency. Although it’s going to be rough, you still have provided your children with shelter, well done. I never want to be stuck in the wild with no protection from the weather, how could you keep your kids warm or protected? Gosh forbid your like me and have more than one!

Water bottle w/ filtration…

Unsafe parasitic water

Water is a necessity, who knows where you’ll be and whether it will be safe to drink the water. I would not trust it anyway so I purchased one of these water bottles for each of my children’s backpacks. As a mother can you imagine having to tell your child you don’t have water as he or she stares back at you suffering from dehydration! I think not, not one of mine.

Survival Pack…

A survival kit

I as a mother am not familiar with survival type things so I had to wing it and purchase one by the experts! I live in an area away from family, it’s just my kids, my brother and I. This is just something I wanted to throw out there as an option if you’re worried about gathering the correct supplies. Sometimes we pay for convenience.

  • Created to meet children’s unique needs: The Keep-Me-Safe Children’s 72-Hr Emergency Survival Kit was designed by parents just like you with supplies carefully selected to help you provide for your child in even the worst of circumstances.
  • Food and Water: During an emergency water is vital and access may be very limited, skip the trouble of boiling water or wasting any of your precious supply to reconstitute freeze-dried meals. The USA made SOS Brand, US Coast Guard approved Food Rations and Water Pouches included in this kit have a 5-YEAR SHELF LIFE, are space-efficient, require no extra water to rehydrate, no reheating, and were developed with a low sodium content as to not induce unnecessary thirst.
  • Comfort: Emergency situations are scary, and they are even scarier for children. Yes, it is important to make sure their physical needs are met, but emotional ones are equally as important. In this child emergency go bag, there are COMFORT items included to help provide your child some SECURITY.
  • Color Options: The backpack can be ordered in your child’s FAVORITE COLOR, and the survival kit isn’t marked with our logo or labels. In a disaster, it’s likely emergency supplies will become a very valuable commodity, so a backpack that does not advertise itself as a survival kit will keep your child and you safer.
  • Fun Sized: At only 7 lbs this survival kit is lightweight and compact making it easy to carry for even a small child. The backpack itself holds all the items, and measures 18”x9”x12”.


An Ordinary Mask

I can not stress the importance of a good quality face mask. You don’t necessarily if it’s not in your budget need to go out and purchase a $200 army mask! I am on a budget but still wish to live, so I grabbed the masks for pollution and contaminates. I purchased one for each of us.

First Aid Kit…

First Aid Kit

I made my own first aid kit and you can too.

Click here for help with yours

Just in case…

As I said before when my kids are crying, hurt and afraid I want to be able to as a mother, comfort them and help them feel better!

Crying Baby

Therefore, I made some extra purchases with everything going on in the world. These are just some things you may want to consider because again you never know how far help may be!👀

I’m sure all those people who have lost everything including their children due to a natural disaster wish they would have come across a post such as this. IJS I don’t want to be that “mom” living without her children because I wanted to live in the moment.

Potable Aqua Germicidal Water Purification Tablets – 50 per Bottle

PrimalCamp Hand Crank Solar Powered Rechargeable LED Flashlight

RegeMoudal Emergency Solar Hand Crank Radio, NOAA Weather Radio for Emergency with AM/FM, LED Flashlight, Reading Lamp, 2000mAh Power Bank, and SOS Alarm

Survival Tabs 15-Day 180 Tabs Emergency Food Ration Survival MREs Food Replacement for Outdoor Activities Disaster Preparedness Gluten Free and Non-GMO 25 Years Shelf Life Long Term – Chocolate Flavor

Emergency Information to Know & Learn…

Dial 9-1-1

Economic Crisis

Natural Disaster and Severe Weather

Shelters for Evacuation

Prepare your child for a disaster

Emergency Food Basics


Money for food delivery👈🏾🙌🏾
Enjoy your kiddos❣
Water bottles make water exciting!
The dreaded mesnstrual cycle😬

The reason your constantly yelling at your kids.

Back to your school days…👌🏽

Do you remember being in middle school trying to keep up with your homework? Your trying to get to class on time by using your daily schedule list. Then the grades gotta be good.😩 Remember the teachers would cram a lot of info in your brain in such a short amount of time. Remember you would attempt to use your free time in study hall to finish homework so you had somewhat of a social life outside the school.😒

Think about it…

We had teachers, bell’s, and a time clock to keep us on task, yet still some of us struggled.🤷🏾‍♀️ Many people were in a school mixed with people from different backgrounds teachers included. This in itself makes it hard sometimes to focus on what your supposed to be doing due to miscommunication.

Tired of repeating yourself everyday?

We forget kids have short attention spans & selective hearing.🙄 I have my children stick to a steady schedule and it makes all our lives easier! They need to have something to refer to in order to remember everything we ask them to do daily, so annoying I know.

I can’t lie though I have a daily to do list at all times because I would never remember everything. No more repeating myself and no more getting angry because the kids forgot simple tasks you’ve drilled in their heads a million bazillion times for years…smh

Interior Design is just my thing!

One day I’m just sitting there looking at the mess my daughters left in the bathroom!😳 I thought to myself enough is enough period. I refuse to live my life in chaos while my little penny pinchers just go about there what in the section 8 and hurricane Katrina business!

I went to my local dollar store and purchased 6 picture frames. You can also get real crafty & do a design around the frame. *super cute*

I went home & typed up a to do list for the bedrooms, bathrooms, and kitchen. This is different from chores these are just the basic commen scense stuff they always saying they forgot to do.🤬

My list consisted of….


  • Wash hands after using the bathroom, yes you “I include there names”
  • Clean tub after showering/bathing “I don’t care if you don’t see the dirt, I do!”
  • Brush your teeth/floss/mouthwash/lotion/deodorant/ vasaline on those crusty lips🤦🏾‍♀️ & if you took it out then put it back.
  • Clean toilet seat with wipes after every use, don’t flush put them in the trash
  • Speaking of trash make sure it’s not overflowing if so change it!
  • Clean out the sink when your done.
  • Wash the mirror if you can’t hold the toothpaste in your mouth so it’s not splattering…you did it so you clean it.
  • Fix all rugs
  • Make sure the toilet paper holder has toilet paper & it’s on the roller and not the sink.
  • Girls take the broom & sweep if you got hair everywhere then use a clean wipe
  • Left any fingerprints on my wall? Look around & get it off if you see it.

Mommy loves you thanks for cleaning up your mess now take one final glance just to be sure you didn’t leave any messes for me to clean…xoxoxo

Repeat then frame them…

Tailor your lists to your life & mention the child you know does certain things, they will be more accepting of being careful. Nobody wants called out whether inside the house or outside. You can also do chore lists this way if everybody keeps their same chores daily or you can switch photo frames to switch it up for them. The chore frame would go in each child’s room hung up on the wall then they can’t say “I forgot” “you didn’t tell me to do that” blah blah blah🙄


Additional Ideas😏


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Free summer time fun with the kiddos!

Schools out….please help me!

I know the struggle they follow you everywhere and complain about how bored they are. I could not imagine only having one child and having to entertain them! I have four and they teach each other, play together, and protect each other.

Sometimes in the summer people want to have fun but just don’t have the financial stability. I have created a list of all the fun things my kids and I have been doing since they were really young. Electronics are scrambling fragile brains like eggs so put it away and take out your time & imagination.

  • take a bike ride with your child teach them to follow signs
  • call a relative and plan a picnic at the park
  • have a toy car wash
  • water play outside in the yard or at the park
  • play “I spy”
  • play “mother may I?”
  • practice writing with your child or have them write a story
  • put on some music an color with your child
  • check out the library and all their summer events
  • take a nature walk/hike
  • blow bubbles
  • fly a kite on a windy day
  • enjoy arts and crafts, get creative using old magazine pictures
  • donate old toys and books to charity
  • enjoy a camp out in the backyard
  • jump rope
  • hopscotch
  • play tic tac toe
  • bake/lemonade sale
  • play board games
  • make slime
  • make a no bake dessert
  • karaoke
  • write a letter to someone special in another state
  • knit/crochet
  • stargazing
  • be creative with your nails and hair with what you have at home (pamper day)
  • take a bubble bath with a bathing suit (you & the kids or just the kids)
  • clean out dresser drawers
  • repaint old wood (this can be made fun!)
  • do a puzzle
  • read
  • practice dance moves
  • go fishing
  • play hide n’ seek
  • make a fort
  • go to the beach make a sandcastle
  • play dodge ball
  • throw a frisbee
  • make a funny video
  • visit a new park every day for a week
  • visit the school playground
  • plant something (tree, seeds, time capsule)
  • visit a local museum
  • feed the birds/ducks
  • visit a local farm
  • take a photo walk
  • play pictionary
  • cooking lessons parent/child
  • teach your child to save money
  • paint rocks
  • family movie night (watch old movies)
  • plan a family slumber party
  • tell each other made up stories

Now go enjoy your kiddos while you can, soon you wont be able to squeeze a kiss out of them…

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