So many emotions, what’s going to happen, how will I afford my bill’s, how can I boost my immune system??
The three biggest questions being asked in today’s society. I would at least like to give you 10 ways to stay positive that may help you with all 3 situations.
Exercise– getting enough exercise will help you with your weight and stress management. Be sure to also make sure your children are getting adequate exercise as well. Turn on a workout video or play an interactive game as a family.
Drink smoothies– right now boosting the immune system would be the wisest thing you can do. Use powder supplements the body can easily absorb when you can. If taking prescription meds please be careful with supplements speak to a doctor.
Stay on top of your mental health– if your not good for yourself your not good for nobody…be patient with yourself if your having a tough time. Put on some relaxing music and take a lavender bath with Epsom salt & grapeseed oil, light a candle and unwind. Keep a notebook to track your mood, eating, water intake, & workouts.
Be honest with all financial companies-Companies right now are aware of what’s going on in the world and really do want to help. You can’t hide create a list of your finances you can’t afford, call the companies and see what they can offer you at this time. What don’t kill you just makes you stronger so take it one day at a time! This too shall pass…
Stay in touch with loved ones via phone, Skype, zoom, etc. -Now is not the time to be being upset with those you call family. Call your loved ones, check on them, tell them that you love them and miss them. Reminisce on some good times and enjoy some great laughs! Create memories that will still last a lifetime. Being positive is the only way to be right now, for yourself & those around you!
Get fresh air– Fresh air is required…whether its sitting on the porch, stepping outside, or opening all your windows. We need fresh air, water, and food hence again “fresh air” to survive. Inside the home the air gets stale and that can negatively affect your mood.
Invest in a diffuser– A diffuser & essential oils is a great way to keep your mind and body at ease without prescription drugs or in addition too. Essential oils help with pain, anxiety & weightloss.
Keep a schedule of kids school information, assignment sheets, important numbers, etc– I always create my own sheet or binder for easy access to my children’s important school assignments, teachers, dates, etc. but that’s just me. Do it for your mental clarity because nothing’s more frustrating than looking for a number, name, assignment, “anything” so don’t do it to yourself.
Make sure everyone has a chore to do at home to keep things clean & organized– functioning mentally in a mess is dang near impossible for most people. Don’t yell everyday, clean up after them, or keep reminding those kids to clean… just give them a job and a schedule. When you go to work you know your job because somebody trained you or gave you a schedule to follow and you remembered it.
Create for yourself a support system of resources you can use if you need them– A beneficial resource list right now would be gold to the average person. At this time the world is in need of help but to have a personal list of important resources at your fingertips is only smart. Say for example: your going over your budget and you can’t make your car payment next month. Instead of panicking you grab your list of companies that will help financially, call them up, & allow your anxiety to remain at bay. The reason for any list is always to make things easier in the end. I’d rather be smart from the very start because it also will depend on how your ending plays out…
A feeling of worry, nervousness, or unease, typically about an imminent event or something with an uncertain outcome.
feelings of severe despondency and dejection: self-doubt creeps in and that swiftly turns to depression.
What is stress?
A state of mental or emotional strain or tension resulting from adverse or very demanding circumstances
How are you feeling, honestly?
I’m curious to know if nobody has asked, how are you feeling? I’m asking because sometimes we are so busy we don’t even sit back and realize there’s been no self-care done for ourself.
We walk past those we know everyday just to hear them say “im fine” when really they are hurting so bad inside and need for you to noice! I understand it’s so much easier to say “im great” then to tell the truth. Many won’t care anyway so why bother? The body can be “petty” and require some simple “me time” when it’s feeling neglegted.
So much to do so many to help…
Work, kids schedules, the significant other, friends, your continuing education, etc. you’re so worried about everybody else you havent figured out your not superwomen! Well let me rephrase that you know your not but your mind wants to try, it sounds like a challenge.
News Flash, you can’t overload your computer with viruses and not expect it to crash just like you can’t overload your brain without emtional or physical crashes.
Been where you are believe me it’s a dark loney place…
Everybody is depending on you therefor you don’t want to let them down. The fact then remains your ok letting yourself down, I totally get it. Taking time for you is a bathroom break, then back to where you left off. I have four kids and I’m always telling them “be patient with me, there are four of you and one of me.” The “stress” monster had a hold of my mind!
Ever stress so much mentally you get physically sick?
I have been there more than I would like to admit. I also realized how toxic my mind gets when I fall into that routine. I tend to end up with stress triggers like fatigue, headaches, cold symptoms, upset stomach…ya know “the norm.”
I used to head on over to the good doc and he would take good care of me by putting me on an antidepressant that goes right to work on my already fragile brain…like scrambled eggs on sunday morning.
You think… “Could I be getting worst?”
I mean it attacks nerotransmitters you need to be functioning for alertness, learning, and thinking. The meds put them right to sleep. O’ no now the body is all confused and out of order! You have dementia symptoms, you become more depressed, your thyroid stops working, your body is storing everything as fat which just makes things worst.
Stress is chipping away at you and its starting to reflect on the outside as well…
Here goes the Anxiety kicking in…I thought the doctor was going to fix everything with the pill prescribed. I thought it would go right to work on my symptoms like the commercial showed!
Is it possible my body is different, my condition is different, my symptoms are caused by something different? Well the doctor talked for five minutes, I talked for five minutes and it took five minutes to check in, times up! I hate to be the barrier of bad news but everything your experiencing is going to take more time to figure out than that.
Again the body is only confused because you are trying to treat the problem with poison (all meds are poison). Of course the docs don’t say it that way, how would they make passive income?
We must try to fix the problem ourselves, get to the root of the problem ya know! Your doctor is there to treat your symptoms, not solve the problem so that it no longer exists.
This is where your self care comes into play. I always tell my patients nobody knows your body better than you do. Stress is tearing you apart but with some self care you can find yourself again.
Change can be so beautiful but sound scary!
Somebody or something in your life has got to be causing the stress. If you want to change your mood you have to change your situation first. Change is scary but many times neccessary for a healthy mind.
A healthy mind is neccessary for a healthy body. See how that works. People are out here on multiple meds, drugs, alcohol, addicted to food all that just because there living situation is “toxic.” So afraid of what others may think or what may happen if you leave or change anything. Realize, your slowly killing yourself.
What is more important?
Basically comes down to two results…you being alive or you being dead.
Here are some examples of people or things you may want to change or fall back from ASAP!
Memory hoarding (keeping familiar things such as furniture, letters, pictures).
Focus like you’ve been given x-ray vision…
Start by focusing on yourself everyone will be fine without you for a while. If work is a problem go to your doctor and get the paper work filled out such as an fmla (family medical leave act).Click for more info regarding fmla That paper will protect your job while you deal with stress. Someone you trust can keep the kids.
Do whatever you need to help yourself calm down and relax, that is step 1.
Go to YouTube and find stress relief music, listen
Get a massage
Sit in a jacuzzi
Detox from social media
Cry (this is a natural pain reliever)
Go to the gym
Go camping be one with nature
Create a journal, write down your thoughts and feelings
Have a girls night w/ close friends (dinner, wine & laughter)
The collapse is real…
Heard of a mid-life crisis, emotional breakdown, psychotic behavior? We just let the stress pile up until the brain says enough and acts out like a two-year-old who hasn’t had a nap in a week! Can you imagine? Everything starts to go wrong!! I’ll just list a few catastrophes.
Change in menstrual period
High blood pressure
Change in weight
Heart attack symptoms
Not trying to scare you but…
That’s not even the half of it! Stress can and will kill you if you dont take control. People really do die of broken hearts so be careful who you allow into your life. Stress will cause something like diabetes to become life-threatening and very complicated. How can your body fight when you have allowed it to be weakened, it’s defenseless and constantly under attack.
Change can only happen if you allow it…
I understand change is very hard but sometimes it’s vital to survival. I had to leave my home town at 28 because I let someone toxic in my life at 15. That meant saying good-bye to everyone I loved dearly except my kids. Once you get to the point where you can’t think, your filled with rage, and you hate your life “your experation date is way past its experation date.” Some of us like to call it a ” breaking point.”
We all have choices we just don’t all choose wisely. They say if you love someone you should let them go but if you had to let them go in the first place something wasn’t right. They say “go with your first instinct”, well it isn’t always correct. They also say ” be a leader not a follower.” I say it’s your call, your life, your mental health…your decision.
Your only alone if your embarrassed or your ego’s on steroids…
The important thing to understand is there is a wealth of support services, agencies, and just general help in any area you live in. Why do you think this is? Well apparently you are not alone in your situation, people out there just like you are having to make life-changing decisions on a daily basis. So much so that “help” agencies have been placed all around the world.
Nobody has to know unless you tell them, I have stopped speaking to my family because in order to help myself I had to leave my past behind. I really don’t need help remembering my shortcomings, that I’m not perfect, or that I’m struggling…believe me I am fully aware! This is the reason I couldn’t move on, they constantly reminded me of what I was trying to forget. They were constantly throwing my cries for help in my face.
Speaking of family…
In my situation the people that hurt me the worst I called “family.”
I would reach out thinking they’ll help or give me some great solutions that may help. Unfortunatly when I did they put me down and talked about me to the rest of the family. Guess what, my strength prepared me for that so they can keep that same energy once my situation improves.
You walk into an agency and say “I need help,” no judgment they ask “how may I help you?” These people are trained to understand you need positive vibes, hope, encouragement, an ear to listen to, someone who cares or atleast pretends to care about how your feeling (ya know the stuff family doesn’t do).
Not classifying all family…
Some people have great family support but they are still judgmental and again, the last thing you need when your already climbing an uphill battle. I like to believe I am special, important, beautiful, highly favored, a queen…even at my worst. I’ll give anybody my last and here I was surrounded by a bunch of leeches that would actually take it.
Im going to repeat this…
Again, accept help from someone who specializes in your particular situation, this way you can avoid a bunch of unneeded stress and jump right into seeing positive results. Your also surrounded by others that are going through similar situations if not worst.
Remember nobody can fix it but you so be confident and reinforce positive thoughts! Remain clear of energy drainers and those in secret competition with you.
Eat but proceed with caution every thing’s tainted…
We are all struggling or suffering in one way or another some just hide it better than others. So many people are hurting on the inside but on the outside others are envious of these people. I always tell my kids “worry about yourself.” “love thyself offensively” “be grateful for your blessings.” “Who are you to judge?” “Negative energy feeds a negative mind” Positive energy feeds a positive mind.” A negative person can feed a positive person but a positive person becomes sick when fed negativity.”
Steer clear & avoid the epidemic…
Too many people out there wanting what others have, it’s a sickening, sad, embarrassing degree of hate & toxicity for all exposed to feel. Yes, hatred and jealousy are diseases and they are very contagious.
The struggle to get to your weightloss destination been a rocky road?
Let me just tell you this… I tried every weightloss drink, pill, rub, diet, etc. It really is no fun being big for no reason. I had no prior medical problems at the time just a pesky, annoying, influential sweet tooth surrounded by sweet lips.
The first step to any weightloss goal is be honest with yourself. What is truly holding you back? It’s you…correct? Nobody here but us two so let’s keep it real. Some people attempting weightloss like to make huge plates while others snack all throughout the day non-stop, others love to eat out way to much and then you have your impulse eaters who watch food shows or see fattening food commercials online and can’t resist making or buying it.
We all have our own sad story that placed us in an unhealthy state. Food makes you feel better, sugar plays on our brain like heroin causing what we believe is a much needed feeling of happiness! In reality those hormones of ours aren’t very smart and they don’t know nor care if we eat healthy good for you foods or drugs. At the time of ingestion it just can’t wait for the release of happy hormones.
Afterwards the long term effects cause suffering, pain, depression, anxiety, anger, the blame game and then eventually regret.
When a person is stressed out sometimes they choose to “stress eat” and that’s not what food is for. After stuffing your face the adrenal glands release the steroid hormone we call cortisol. Beware of Adrenal Burnout!
Cortisol is the body’s primary stress hormone, and it plays a very huge role in many bodily functions, including controlling blood sugar levels. Life is stressful so controlling our levels are important for our mental health.
The body relies on effective communication between the following three parts of the body to release the correct amount of cortisol:
the adrenal gland
the pituitary gland
the hypothalamus (which is part of the brain)
Between them, they stimulate the production of cortisol when the body needs it and block it when the levels need to drop back down. Well that’s what it does in a normal brain. In an unhealthy brain “mental health problems” it malfunctions like a computer with a virus that can crash any second.
Both too much and too little cortisol can have an adverse effect on the body.
High cortisol level symptoms
Excess cortisol could result from a tumor or as a side effect of some medications.
Too much cortisol can lead to Cushing’s syndrome. Symptoms include:
a flushed face
urinating more frequently
changes in mood, such as feeling irritable or low
rapid weight gain in the face and abdomen
bruises or purple stretch marks appearing on the skin
decreased sex drive
Some people may also find that their periods become irregular or stop altogether.
Too much cortisol can also cause other conditions and symptoms, including:
high blood pressure
type 2 diabetes
impaired brain function
Low cortisol level symptoms
Too little cortisol could cause Addisons Disease & this condition includes:
gradual weight loss
changes in mood
areas of the skin turning darker
low blood pressure
Dopamine is a chemical found naturally in the human body. It is a neurotransmitter, meaning it sends signals from the body to the brain.
Dopamine plays a critical, vital, & essential part in controlling the movements a person makes, as well as their emotional responses. The correct balance of dopamine is vital for both physical and mental wellbeing as well as weightloss.
Your brain functions that affect your mood, your sleep, your memory, your learning, concentration, and motor control are influenced by the levels of dopamine in your body. A dopamine deficiency causes certain medical conditions such as depression. Depression slows metabolism therefore making weightloss dang near impossible for some.
A dopamine deficiency can be caused by a sudden drop in the amount of dopamine made by the body or a problem with the receptors in the brain.
The symptoms of a dopamine deficiency depend on the underlying cause. For example, a person with Parkinson’s disease will experience very different symptoms from someone with low dopamine levels due to prescription abuse, illegal drug abuse, or an obese person with a sugar addiction.
Some signs and symptoms of conditions related to a dopamine deficiency include:
muscle cramps, spasms, or tremors
aches and pains
stiffness in the muscles
loss of balance
difficulty eating and swallowing
weight loss or weight gain
gastroesophageal reflux disease (GERD)
trouble sleeping or disturbed sleep
an inability to focus
moving or speaking more slowly than usual
feeling inexplicably sad or tearful
having low self-esteem
suicidal thoughts or thoughts of self-harm
low sex drive
lack of insight or self-awareness
It is also thought that drug abuse can affect dopamine levels. Studies have shown that repeated drug use could alter the thresholds required for dopamine cell activation and signalling.
Damage caused by drug abuse means these thresholds are higher and therefore it is more difficult for a person to experience the positive effects of dopamine. Drug abusers have also been shown to have significant decreases in dopamine D2 receptors and dopamine release.
Diets high in sugar and saturated fats can suppress dopamine, and a lack of protein in a person’s diet could mean they do not have enough l-tyrosine, which is an amino acid that helps to build dopamine in the body.
Healthy weightloss here I come!
So one day I’m at work & one of my patients say “so Shamara why haven’t you told me your pregnant, I see how big your getting and I wanna know when the baby’s coming.”
I wanted to die so I said the only thing I could think of at that time that would make him “worry about himself”🤬I said O I had twins & lost them🤷🏾♀️ “don’t judge me” I was so embarrassed but It was my fault and I should have been! I immediately started going to the gym, making green smoothies and watching what I placed in my body plus nothing after 8 PM.
Weightloss results what a beautiful thing
So who would have known, I lost weight! I saw results! I felt great! I guess it’s *TRUE* “you are what you eat” and your brain will remind your body to make you feel like it too. I was able to fit into my old cute outfits I just couldn’t part with.
I love my brain but it is so two faced turning on me everytime it gets used to my current weight. I fluctuate so we been through this time & time again now we finally have a great understanding. I actually had to rewire it “mind over matter” and my body, my health, and my love of life mattered.
So your body is meant to go into survival mode if and when you restrict food, calories, fat, etc.
Once in survival mode the brain sends messages through the body to “store as much fat as possible.” Say you don’t eat breakfast, have a salad for lunch then thereafter you have a smoothie. The brain says “hey we needs all of that” your body then stores it all even though it’s not much.
The next example…your super hungry and you eat waffles, pizza, then for dinner you eat subway. First of all “you know your wrong” second of all the brain gets all excited & orders the body again to store it as fat, I mean it’s bossy & petty but very important! It’s on a mission to collect all the fat it can to protect you, then that leads to obesity, disease, depression, anxiety, mood disorders, imbalanced hormones and many other problems.